Do you have a friend who stays depressed and/or shows verbal or nonverbal inclination towards suicide? You can probably help him/her out. Find out how.
As strange as it may sound, studies say that all human beings are naturally afraid of death as well as suicidal; only the degrees differ. While there are some who, in a hunger for attention, impulsively “attempt” a suicide without real intentions to die, there are others who mean every darn part of their action and do it with full conviction and planning. The former manages to ensure its survival in one way or the other but the latter doesn’t feel the need to. And that is why we must do our part.
The decision of killing oneself depends on various factors like the situation, past experiences, the fabric of one’s own mind, lack or presence of external help and many more. However, some of these factors can be consciously altered to affect that decision and that is exactly what this article is all about.
[Also Read: Why You Should Scrap Your Plans Of Suicide]
Do not only criticize
Every year, around the world, about 800 thousand people kill themselves, 17% of them being from India. It is probably very easy to judge all of them and collectively call them selfish, coward or stupid but even if they were any of that, does that mean they did not deserve to live? Does our responsibility as more “sensible”, “brave” and “thoughtful” human beings end at criticism? While not all suffering from depression are suicidal, most suicides are indeed born of extreme depression. What are we doing to help them come out of that state of mind?
We obviously don’t want to sympathize with the suicide victims thinking that would apparently encourage people to believe that it is okay to take such a step when you are sad. However, if we are so positive and sorted out, shouldn’t we also extend our helping hands or more precisely patient ears to the ones alive and troubled? In most cases, those contemplating suicide throw hints about their tendency but they are often not taken seriously by the people around.
Expect and respect diversity of minds
We take it for granted that a certain person can never be depressed enough to commit suicide since he/she has a loving family or a successful career or is simply rich. However, as rightly pointed out by a suicide survivor, “The idea of happiness and sadness is absolutely subjective and what might seem to be a small hurdle to you might be a big deal in someone else’s life.” It is very important pick up the hints and approach the person with optimum level of compassion and sensitivity. You don’t want to drive them back into their shell, nor do you want them to become conscious.
Transfer your positivity
The best way to deal with negativity is to induce positivity. When talking to suicide-prone people, it is very important to sow the seed of hope in them. Remind them of the times they weren’t wishing to die. Remind them of anything that could possibly hold them back. It could be people, a thing or any unfulfilled wish. Make them see the probable consequences of their action. Emphasize on making them realize that if they haven’t taken the step already then there is obviously a doubt in their mind and for the sake of it they should live.
Get them professional help
If you think, you are not able to improve their mental health with your own efforts, get them professional help. Although convincing them to feel okay about therapy could be a challenging task on its own, in the end it will be fruitful. You can also seek online consultation available in many websites.
Whenever you are confused about whether you should take a person’s suicidal tendency seriously or not, remember the answer is always YES.