You are a woman of Substance. You have the gift of being a woman. You are someone who goes to office, does her household chores, takes care of the family, acts as a doting mother, a loving wife and plays all the roles society expects you to play to absolute perfection. Take a moment to celebrate yourself. Celebrate your womanhood. Here is how you should do it
Make peace with yourself
You are unkempt, you are an elephantine 10 kg off the scale, you don’t look good in a skater dress, you need a 4 inches wedge to look as tall as your room-mate, you cannot whip up delicacies like your mom, you aren’t really proud of your job profile and you don’t have a dazzling smile to put things straight like your colleague. Well, like you already know, “Nobody is perfect.” For once stop complaining and look deeper into your being. I am sure you will find amazing things about yourself.
This new year rediscover yourself and embark on a romantic relationship with yourself.
Take time out for yourself
There is a humongous 24 hours in a day. Find a little time for yourself no matter how busy you are in role playing. Hop into your running shoes and explore your neighborhood, gift yourself the wonderful habit of reading, pamper yourself with a rejuvenating hair spa, do the tango, pursue your passion. Do anything that makes you happy. The hang-over of this hard-earned happiness will help you float through the crisis hours. The astonished looks in people’s eyes in answer to your atrocious level of patience will leave you smiling in your head.
Sometimes, we, the fairer sex, are told to shut-up and put up with nonsense to avoid nonsense. Ever thought how nonsensical is that? This year take a loud-speaker, put it in maximum volume and give your piece of mind to all those who ask you to compromise. Tolerating wrong in silence is as wrong as the wrong itself.
Throw away the baggage of societal tags
People will call you slutty if you have many guy friends. People will call you unapproachable if you have only girl friends. People will call you attention-seeker if you wear skimpy clothes. People will call you parochial if you cover yourself with a salwar suit. People will call you a floozy if you smile too much. People will call you haughty if you don’t. People will call you any damn thing anyways. So, this year, tear up the societal badges into pieces and live your life the way you want to at the bottom of your bosom. Enjoy the gift of being a woman.
Take an inner makeover session
Reconstruct your inner self this new year. Nurture your soul. Make friendship with your past. Bury the hatchet. Forgive yourself more often. Learn to say sorry the moment you realize you are wrong. Thank everyone for every little thing they do for you. Put a smile on a stranger’s face just for the heck of it. Help someone without expecting anything in return. Make your ego big enough to accommodate not only you but even people who matter to you. Come up with a better version of yourself.
Stop investing in self-deprecating relationships
Put an end to a relationship that belittles you. If you don’t grow as a human being in a relationship don’t let the relationship grow needlessly. Sometimes it is difficult to let go just because you want to wake up to the same things every morning. But unnecessary things only give you unnecessary trouble. Remember appendix?
Know the fine line between adjustment and compromise
This new year go back to the good old Oxford dictionary and mug up the definition of these two words. We often get lost in the labyrinth of these two words and lose ourselves at the end of it all. Next time know what is on the table before you hit the compromise button. Evaluate if anything is worth not being yourself.
Be more gracious to other women
What’s the point in showing other women down when you are fighting for the overall elation of your being? If you spit in the air it will land in your face. Don’t involve others in your hating game. If you don’t know their story give them the benefit of doubt. If you become the society and indulge in name-calling what good is it to ask society to be good to you?
Get over the charm of big fat weddings
A big fat wedding is a fool’s paradise. It is the brain-child of marketing geniuses to lure the consumers. It is a trap that appeals to the visual sense and blocks the common sense. What is the point in buying jewelry which you will anyways stash away in some bank locker the next day? What is the point in tying the knot in an exotic locale when you will have to live in a 2 BHK flat the rest of your life? This year touch-up the marriage video that keeps reeling in your head. Edit the unnecessary parts.
Learn to say ‘NO’
You have no right to become the yes man. It’s yes man after all. Do you see the point?
Master a self-defense art
Don’t wait for your knight in shining armour to come to your rescue. Be your own king. There is an other world charm in being your own messiah. The one who said, “Self-help is the best help” was so damn right. This year get enrolled in some martial art class and be your own talisman.
Kill the myths
Resurrect yourself from the rubble of age old societal myths. Society will tell you, “Know your limits lady.” You should know you have none. Don’t clip your wings for some baseless barrier the society so loves putting on you. Go ahead, soar high and prove how wrong society is.
Broaden your horizon
There are a lot of things you already know but there are more things you don’t. So instead of indulging in petty gossips and meaningless shopping sprees, pamper yourself with enriching experiences this year and forever. Buy yourself a book, book yourself an air ticket, wake yourself up to a lovely sunrise, drive yourself to the countryside, go on a hiking trip and pitch your tent in the middle of nowhere. Do things you never did before. Soak in the glory of doing things you never thought you would. Take yourself for a surprise.
In short, live life the way you want to!